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Top 5 Career Regrets
I know I talk a lot about money and being financially independent as soon as possible but having a career, and having a life is not about living for the money and working like a dog.
(Unless you really love doing that, then by all means….. would you mind sending me a cheque?
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You have to enjoy the job you are doing as well, seeing as you spend 40+ hours a week at it.
There is no point in having all of that money in retirement if you suffered, and felt miserable through the majority of your life to get it.
Be happy with your lot, or change and find something that may pay less, but will make you 10X happier.
This is why Harvard Business Review’s Top Five Career Regrets struck such a chord with me. I’ve taken quotes from each regret:
Career Regret #1: I wish I hadn’t taken the job for the money
Lamented one investment banker, “I dream of quitting every day, but I have too many commitments.” Another consultant said, “I’d love to leave the stress behind, but I don’t think I’d be good at anything else.” Via
Career Regret #2: I wish I had quit earlier
Said one sales executive, “Those years could have been spent working on problems that mattered to me. You can’t ever get those years back.” Via

Career Regret #3: I wish I had the confidence to start my own business
Even Fortune 500 CEOs dream of entrepreneurial freedom.
Admitted one: “My biggest regret is that I’m a ‘wantrepreneur.’ I never got to prove myself by starting something from scratch.” Via
Career Regret #4: I wish I had used my time at school more productively
A biology researcher recounted her college experience as being “in a ridiculous hurry to complete what in hindsight were the best and most delightfully unstructured years of my life.” Via
Career Regret #5: I wish I had acted on my career hunches
In 2005, an investment banker was asked to lead a small team in (now) rapidly growing Latin America. Sensing that the move might be an upward step, he still declined. Crushingly, the individual brave enough to accept the offer was promoted shortly to division head, then to CEO. Via
Via Harvard Business Review: Read the entire Top Five Career Regrets in detail here.
Pretty powerful, no?
Here’s my take:
DON’T JUST LOOK AT THE INCOME
Instead of focusing your energy on getting more income, why not focus it on seeing how LITTLE you can spend for a comfortable life, so you can have a wider range of career possibilities?
If you spend a lot of money, like $80,000 a year because you have a house, 2 cars, and all the trappings of a middle-class existence, then you will be forced to stay in that job forever.
But if you change your spending habits and only spend about $30,000 net a year, you only need to make about $48,000 gross.
What jobs and careers open up for you then?
BEING YOUR OWN BOSS IS NOT ALWAYS THE ANSWER
Not everyone wants to do it, so don’t focus on it being the solution if deep down, you know you don’t want to be on your own.
It is NOT an easy life to be your own boss, to own your own shop or business and to be the only person accountable for every damn thing including making sure you have enough money to survive through the tough years.
It is a Feast or Famine lifestyle.
I know at least 2 freelancers who became their own boss, rather liked it for the money at the time, but then re-joined a company at the end of it all for various reasons:
- Had no idea how to create a budget and stick to it
- Had no savings & spent every penny they earned & when the famine hit, they starved into debt
- Preferred a stable career with a manager, a structure, colleagues and the whole 9 yards
- Didn’t want to be a Lone Wolf (many freelancers are fiercely independent Lone Wolves…a hard life)
NEVER SAY NEVER
I can safely say that I’ve avoided turning all of the above Career Regrets into Lifetime Woes.
Hit all of them.
At school, I didn’t work THAT hard once I got into business school, partly because I was working 2 full-time jobs to stem the pain of student debt, so I sort of enjoyed those years (Avoided Regret #4).
Then I literally took the best-paying job for the money to clear my loans (Avoided Regret #1), and by luck, ended up loving it.
I couldn’t take dealing with managers any more, so I quit after a few years (Avoided Regret #2), and found my own way in the industry by starting my own business (Avoided Regret #3) by acting on my career hunch (Avoided Regret #5).
It is never too late to change, but it will always be too late for regrets.
Posted in Career
Also tagged Be Happy, Career, Entrepreneur, Lifetime, Lone Wolf, Money, Regrets, Working, Your Own Boss
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Who really hates their jobs?
In the (free) newspaper 24 Hours, they posted under Your Career on Monday November 19th 2012, the occupations who really hate their jobs with data taken from Payscale.com:
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Even if the money is good, if the nature of the job itself is hard to deal with and not in line with your personality, it is not a good job.
Money isn’t everything!
MINIMUM WAGE SUCKS
This is the #1 reason for people hating their jobs — the money. These are the jobs I am sure where they don’t make more than minimum wage (if that):
- Fast Food Worker = 38.40%
- Bartender = 6.70% (although we should note that they get tips)
- Fashion Designer = 4.90% (could be lower; not everyone is rich & famous)
- Retail sales associate = 3.70%
Working for minimum wage will suck the life out of anyone, although we have to keep in mind it is most likely students who are working these jobs, so it is not necessarily their career.
In Canada, minimum wage is on average $10.10/hour across all provinces and territories.
That works out to $20,207.69 per year as a gross income.
In the U.S., minimum wage on average is $7.39 an hour, with the federal minimum wage set to $7.25/hour as a bare minimum.
This works out to $14,788.40 per year as a gross income, or a full $5419.29 less per year than their Canadian counterparts.
(Did I also mention there is no universal healthcare in the U.S. either, and from my own personal experience, it can cost up to $1000 – $2000 USD/month for a single person?).
BEING REQUIRED TO BE MEAN, MAKES YOU FEEL BAD
No one wants to go into their job and have to take money away from people who can’t pay their bills.
Yes, they got themselves into that credit card, line of credit MESS, but you still can’t help but feel bad for them:
- Gaming dealer = 17% (they must see a lot of desperate folks trying to strike rich)
- Loan collector = 4.90% (if any job sucks the most, it has to be this one for me)
- Senior Attorney = 4.40% (you’re fighting all the time & you have to be tough)
- Credit/Collections Supervisor = 4.10% (again, you have to take money they can’t give)
- Claims adjuster = 3.10% (can you imagine telling someone they have less money?)
It is a requirement of those above jobs to be mean to people. It’s not a nice thing when you’re trying to make a pay cheque, and people are crying, screaming or generally ALWAYS mad at you.
SUPER HIGH-STRESS JOBS THAT NEVER LET UP AREN’T HAPPY ONES
- Telemarketer = 9.40% (constantly getting the phone slammed down on you is nasty)
- TV news director = 8.10% (you get blamed for everything but credit for nothing)
- Investment banking associate = 4.60% (exactly the reason why I didn’t join banking)
- Legal assistant = 3.40% (you must get yelled at all the time to be faster by attorneys)
- Advertising account executive = 3.30% (there’s a lot of pressure to make it rain)
Dealing with problems all the time does not make you a happy person. These are jobs that are 100+ hour workweeks and don’t let up.
You’re constantly thinking about your job, and if you aren’t a workaholic, it takes a toll on you and your personal life.
In addition, some of these industries are highly competitive (including Fashion Designer, above), which makes it hard to be recognized or to gain a foothold in the job market.
There are times where my job is somewhat high stress, but it isn’t 100% of the time, which gives my brain a much needed break.
ENVIRONMENTALLY-UNFRIENDLY JOBS ARE UNDESIRABLE ONES
The last one that doesn’t fit the above is Petroleum Engineer (3.10%). It stated in the article that 75% of people would not take a job if it harmed the environment, and this is probably the main reason why.
Maybe people get mad at them because they blame them for things like BP’s 2010 Oil Spill Fiasco, and they’re just trying to make a living.
Although if we’re being honest, there aren’t that many jobs out there that are 100% ecologically-friendly.
Almost every job I can think of (including mine), harms the environment through use of technology which releases toxic chemicals into the environment, selling food that has been the result of over grazing land to grow more cows to feed the world’s insatiable appetite for meat, and a whole host of other indirect and direct threats to the environment (we all take cars, use gas or fly at some point of our lives don’t we?)
SO WHAT ARE THE BEST JOBS OUT THERE?
Obviously, the opposite of the above:
- Low stress
- Reasonable-to-High paying
- Not directly tied to harming the environment
- Jobs where you aren’t dealing with problems
- … or people aren’t yelling at you 24/7
I think most of all, the job has to be something you enjoy doing.
If you enjoy your job, no matter how much pressure or stress it puts on you, it can make a big difference, but if you hate it, it’s game over.
For instance, I love my job, but I know at least 2 out of 10 consultants who hate theirs, and we do exactly the same thing.
Money makes no difference to them other than chaining them to their current profession because they just don’t like it.
DO YOU LOVE YOUR JOB? WHAT DO YOU DO?
Posted in Career
Also tagged Career, Hate, Love, Passion, What careers make people upset, Which occupations are the worst, Who hates their jobs, Work
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Do we really discriminate against unattractiveness?
Short answer:
Yes. We’re human and biologically wired to look for beauty (in everything).
Long answer:
Being attractive is not necessarily based on your actual looks.
It means you are dressing well, taking care of your appearance and trying your best to look good, rather than giving up completely, wearing clothes too big with holes in them, and not bothering to take care of your appearance.
Ever hear of the French term jolie laide?
It means literally “pretty + ugly” (not “pretty ugly”, as you might think of it in English), and it refers to stereotypically ugly women who are considered pretty because they make an effort.
It’s a French idea that even “ugly” women can be considered beautiful with the right clothes, makeup, proper grooming, and most of all, a good personality with a smile.
The most iconic figure for the term jolie laide (not meant to be used derogatorily), is Diana Vreeland.
Diana Vreeland was a noted columnist and editor in the field of fashion. She worked for the fashion magazines Harper’s Bazaar and Vogue and the Costume Institute of the Metropolitan Museum of Art. She was named to the International Best Dressed List Hall of Fame in 1965. (Via)
No one could truthfully say she is a beautiful woman with her more masculine features, but she is considered pretty because she knows how to dress and present herself at her very best.
In addition, being attractive can also work against you if you’re a woman, but not if you’re a man, mostly because women HR managers tend to penalize beautiful women for job roles out of jealousy, even if they are competent for the job.
YOU CAN MAKE MORE MONEY BY BEING ATTRACTIVE
“Investing in your appearance can grab you between 10-12 percent more than your dowdier colleagues for both men and women.”
This is what Catherine Hakim of Erotic Capital, calls the ‘beauty premium’ (a great read!!).
And Freedom 35 recently posted the following link:
According to an article from nydailynews.com:
“Handsome men earn, on average, 5 percent more than their less-attractive counterparts, while attractive women make 4 percent more.
Over the course of a good-looking man’s career, he will earn roughly $250,000 more than a comparable, yet unattractive, employee.”
Over a course of 40 years, it is about $6250 a year, or $3.12 an hour.
I will point out that there is also the fact that when you’re beautiful or handsome, you probably already know it from an early enough age (at least, before you start your career).
You know it enough to use it to your advantage, and as a result, you grow up more confident and perhaps more bold enough to ask for raises year-over-year.
Other less attractive folk may not grow up as confident in themselves, and are perhaps less likely to ask for said raises as a result.
As I always say: It doesn’t hurt to ask!!!!
HOW ANYONE CAN LOOK “ATTRACTIVE”
(Attractive by the conventional sense of ‘attractiveness’)
These are the markers of beauty in society for both men and women:
- Straight, white teeth (although very white teeth scare me)
- Clear, glowing skin with an even skin tone
- Neat and clean nails — Nothing yellow, long, or with dirt underneath them
- Lustrous well-kept hair — A modern updated haircut does wonders
- A fit and healthy figure — gives your skin a healthy glow
- Being tall (most advantageous for men)
- Wearing clothes that fit and don’t have holes or stains on them and flatter you
- Your posture is straight and healthy — No hunching!!
Notice a theme here?
Beauty has everything to do with looking and being healthy and looking neat and clean.
Eat well. Exercise. Sleep your required 8 hours a day. Smile.
For men, the above applies as a good general rule, so don’t forget that eating fruits and vegetables can really improve your looks.
For women, it also includes a little makeup (not a lot!!).
Wearing a little makeup can go a long way to making women earn more money by looking more attractive and competent – a little eyeliner, concealer and perhaps some tinted lip balm and you are good to go.
And no, plastic surgery is not generally the answer.
There you go. Go forth and increase your earning power!
Posted in Career, Money
Also tagged Attractive, Beauty, Career, French, Jolie Laide, Judging, Pretty, Stereotypes, What can you do
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What does it mean to be an adult?
As a kid, I used to think being an adult happened once you turned the age of majority, which in my case, was 19. Or when I reached my final height and stopped growing
Now, I’m thinking becoming an adult in a social context is much more complex than that, mostly because we have different rites of passage for adults these days than we did before.
All this talk about young people (my generation) and this new cultural, Western phenomenon of ‘arrested development’ where no one wants to grow up and become an adult has made me wonder WTF happened.
WHAT HAPPENED IN THE PAST?
Two generations ago, my grandparents became adults the day they got married, moved out of their parents’ homes, got jobs and worked to pay for their bills while raising a family. No college degrees.
One generation ago, my parents followed the same path, although before they moved out of their parents’ homes after they got married, my mother got a college degree (but my father went straight into the workforce with just a high school education).
Photograph I took while walking along New York City’s High Line Railroad Park
Now?
We Millennials don’t even get married until we’re in our late 20s, even mid-30s.. or perhaps, not at all, so being an adult doesn’t come after being married any more.
Plus, we are being herded and nagged to go to college, even if we don’t have a clue about what we want to do with that degree (if it’s worth anything..).
We each follow different paths to become adults (before or after college), but the most striking commonality among those whom I consider to be adults, are that they are all financially independent, even having lost their jobs.
I know at least 5 people who don’t have jobs right now, but they’re still living on their own with drastically slashed budgets, living off their emergency funds, searching hard for a new job, and NOT moving back in with Mommy and Daddy.
One girl even took on waitressing and catering jobs in the meantime (with an MBA!) because she had to make ends meet while job hunting.
They are all determined to find a new career and/or job, go back to school and do something else.
Sometimes you have a boomerang adult-child who ends up coming back to the nest right after being unemployed to mooch, but I only know of one person like that.
So when I come across newly minted college grads such as this one, who say things like:
“..it’s time for me to become an adult and start paying my bills“
…yet she has never moved out on her own, and her parents are letting her live rent-free, grocery-free, with goodness knows what else, you wonder if they even know what being a real adult, let alone being financially independent means.
(Curtsey to Money after Graduation for the link)
Being an adult to me, means being able to support yourself without help of others like your parents or siblings.
Then what you choose to do, is your own business.
Look, you can be an adult and still live with your parents or grandparents — here’s one case in point:
I have a friend who told us after college he would move in with his grandmother to live with her, mostly to take care of her but also to pay ‘rent’ to her which would cover the rest of her mortgage and household bills which would secure her needs.
When his grandmother passed away, he sold the house, split the amounts with his siblings, and bought his own condo.
THAT, is an adult, my friends.
Photograph I took of artwork in an NYC subway
SO YOU CAN’T FIND A JOB, HUH?
There seems to be a (sad) trend happening where no one wants to really take the leap into true adulthood — this is being mirrored on TV such as in HBO’s “Girls” where a heroine who has been supported by her parents for years after college is cut off by her parents because they were sick of her not fully becoming independent any time soon.
While I absolutely understand not being able to find a job you love especially in today’s economy, here are some ground rules to true adulthood if you have no choice but to be at home with your parents:
- get a full-time job, ANY job that you work at, for 40 hours a week
- cover your own personal bills (cellphone, gas, car, car insurance) without whining
- pay some form of rent to cover your shelter and household bills there
- help out around the house without grumbling
- continue to look for a job
That’s it.
And you know what? That’s exactly what I do with my parents.
I don’t see the point in signing a lease for a year when I may only be in their city for a few months (or traveling a lot), so when I am with my parents, I:
- pay rent and my share of the household bills
- pay my own bills (cellphone, gas, .. everything)
- buy my own groceries and theirs, and cook for them
- buy them things I think they need around the house
- …even pay for necessary repairs sometimes
- help out around the house — I set a weekly schedule to clean each part of the house
I do it because I should, especially since they’re letting me stay there and invade their lives from time to time.
I know my parents not-so-secretly love having me there (they get lonely), but that doesn’t mean I should take advantage of them, especially if I want to call myself an adult.
When are we ever going to grow up, if we aren’t doing it now?
Posted in Life
Also tagged Adults, Arrested Development, Career, Children, Cultural Phenomenon, Finding a job, Growing Up, Life, Living at home with your parents, Millennials, Society
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The Big Bad Wolf: Outsourcing and how it affects the job market
We can all agree that no one seems to like outsourcing.
Outsourcing to China? Shame on you for not protecting American jobs!
Outsourcing to India? Double curses on you and your family!
Outsourcing, jobs, immigrants and how it affects us has been on my mind lately from reading Forbes, listening to Obama and Romney battle it out and seeing people’s reactions to the Olympics when non-citizens of that country, play for that country’s team.
1. People (and companies) make individual, economic choices everyday
When you go to a store, and you see a jacket for $100, and a similar looking one for $50, which one are you going to buy?
Will you care enough to pay $50 more just because one says “Made in the U.S.A.”?
Perhaps you would out of a strong sense of patriotism, but many people struggling with budget concerns, wouldn’t. They’d probably close a blind eye to that tag, and buy the $50 jacket.
Companies, as they are run by humans, think the same way and have their own budgets to worry about.
Why would they want to pay 100% more for raw materials if it can be purchased for much cheaper to give them a better profit margin?
2. Companies play on such patriotism and are sneaky S.O.B.s
To add insult to injury, companies even PLAY on such strong, patriotic feelings by making tags that say “Made in the U.S.A.”, when in fact everything in that product was produced in countries like Indonesia, China or Romania, but only the assembly and/or packaging was done in the U.S.A.
This gives them the legal right to put that tag on there that it’s “Made in the U.S.A.”
I do rather enjoy buying things from independents rather than big box retailers, but even I have a limit.
3. Is it a company or the government’s duty to hand you a job?
I am most likely (okay DEFINITELY) going to get burned for this, but I’ll say it anyway: Is it really the company or the government’s problem to find a job for you?
Let me lay out my logic before you come at me with your pitchfork.
I always feel like as a Western society, we have this mentality of: I Deserve.
“I deserved that job over her.”
“I deserve that promotion, because I’ve been here longer and I’m louder.”
“I deserve that job because I’m a citizen of this country.”
“I deserve that job because I am EDUCATED. I went to college to get a [insert unwanted] degree for goodness sake and now I’m thousands in debt. Society owes me.”
We all know that no one deserves anything (least of all money they haven’t saved and retirement), so why are we thinking that it’s the company or the government who has to hand you a job on a silver platter?
It’s like saying that you spent your whole working life screwing around with your money, going into thousands of dollars in debt, only to find at the age of 65 that the bank is telling you that you CAN’T stop working or retire because you have nothing saved and you owe them a lot of money.
Are you going to go to the bank and whine that they should not only clear your debts for you, but give you money to retire?
Are you going to argue that you deserved all those fancy vacations they paid for on your behalf because you worked so hard and needed a treat?
Or that your brand new car is a necessity because you hate public transportation, what with all those people crammed into a space making you feel like cattle?
The job market is essentially the same, brutal reality.
If you want more money, and you know what job you want, but that job requires skills you don’t have, are you going to storm into that company, and throw a fit saying:
Look, it’s not really my responsibility to learn new skills, go to school, and work hard.
It’s the company and the government’s job to give me what I want because I was BORN here.
I’m educated with a degree. It should be good enough for you to overlook the fact that I don’t have the skills you need.
Sounds ridiculous right?
4. Why are skilled immigrants such a supposed threat to the country?
Outsourcing is not only happening because of cost. It’s 90% of the reason, but it’s also that they (presumably) do the job faster and better.
As an immigrant twice over, I always get a distinct feeling (partially a stereotype really), that society believes that immigrants simply work harder because they don’t have this I Deserve mentality.
They know what it took to get into a First World country for a better life for their family, and they don’t expect anyone to give them anything.
It’s the survival of the fittest… and for their children — the hardest working and the smartest.
Their motto is: Who is going to pay your bills if you don’t hustle?
I was watching the most recent episode of Project Runway (Episode 3, Season 10), where Elena Silvnyak from the Ukraine gets annoyed when another designer tells her to calm down and doesn’t understand why she’s so intense.
Being from where I am [Ukraine], you need a toughness to survive.
If you go to the Ukraine, no one is going to say ‘Please’ and ‘Thank you’ and bla bla bla.
To just survive and eat everyday, people have to really hustle.
You have to be very strong. The weak ones don’t survive.
I haven’t had to ever live in that kind of extreme, but I see her point.
Without a stream of skilled immigrants, could this country continue to grow and thrive? No.
Without people (never mind where you’re from), who work hard and get the job done, would this country be as dynamic as it is? No.
So why do we want to NOT challenge ourselves as a society, and instead, want to blame others for setting the bar too high?
Want to do something about it? Be better at your job. Work harder. Learn more. Adapt and outsmart the others around you.
5. Where are displaced Americans going to get the skills?
Okay, so if we’ve come to the conclusion that Americans don’t have manufacturing jobs available any longer, then they need to find other kinds of jobs they can do.
However, someone who has been a factory worker assembling parts for 40 years, is not likely going to be able to transition into a more complex job that requires more skills without getting a basic education.
It can be hard to go back to school at the age of 50 to try and learn something you haven’t grown up with.
It can be twice as hard to do this, when you haven’t saved enough for retirement because you expected that a company would take care of you, are unemployed and simply cannot do the job required.
(Not as a slight against anyone’s brain or skills, it’s more that it’s like the old adage goes — It is really hard to teach an old dog, new tricks)
Perhaps the answer is not to give jobs by forcing patriotism down people’s throats, or patronizing (and CODDLING) the workforce, but to offer higher education at more affordable rates and to encourage people into jobs that WILL pay.
6. Are we setting up our future generations for such jobs and to have a sense of competition?
There are some things you just can’t teach, and some people who just can’t learn.
You can’t teach me anything about chemistry — it just.. gives me a headache, and I simply don’t want to learn it mostly because I am not interested in it.
I’m going to take a wild guess that this is the same for most people.
So the problem is getting people to be interested in learning and doing jobs that are needed by the American market, today.
Instead, what I think I am feeling is that society is coddling everyone around them well into adulthood and it starts when they’re kids.
“You can do and be anything you want, my precious darling!
You are the most unique snowflake in the world who is brilliant at everything.
OMG look, you learned how to spit up so adorably.“
This makes kids realize that any little thing they do, get praised, so why bother challenging themselves or reaching higher?
This same attitude continues as they get older.
They just need to make a half-assed try at something to be told how awesome they are, then they’re surprised when employers are not impressed with their mediocre skills.
It also makes kids want to only do fun things. Like coloring. And napping.
Who the hell wants to learn math as a kid? Or study science?
Okay, so there are a few zealous geeks who started young, but the majority of kids dream about being ballerinas, singers, actresses and athletes.
They see the fame, the fortune.. and it’s COOL because their idols do it.
No one dreams about becoming an engineer.
So maybe you don’t want to go all Lion Father or Tiger Mother on them, but the bar should be set a little higher or else they’ll really be ill-prepared for the future job market.
SUMMARY:
- Outsourcing results from people & companies make choices for their budgets
- Companies play on that patriotism of: Buy American Made!
- Is it a company or a government’s duty to give you a job?
- Why are skilled immigrants overseas or in the country such a threat to society?
- Where are displaced Americans going to get new jobs and find new skills?
- Are we setting up our future kids, or hurting them?
I am open to all kinds of (CIVIL) opinions and discussions as I haven’t made up my mind totally and am struggling through with these thoughts I’ve laid out above.
I am also clearly biased (who isn’t?) based on my situation.
What do you think about the above?
On women in the workplace
Came across this great quote today by Bill Gates*.
(As I didn’t personally hear it, I am assuming the quote and the circumstances were true, but even if they weren’t, the quote still rings true for me and is something I believe.)
WE HAD THE SAME ATTITUDES ABOUT WOMEN NOT SO LONG AGO!
Before the World Wars, women stayed at home, cooked, cleaned and didn’t have careers.
It wasn’t until all the men went to war, that women had to step in, roll up their sleeves and work.
Some went back to what they were doing before, others decided they liked working and kept doing it, albeit in ‘safe’ jobs like being a secretary and fighting to be recognized as an equal in the workplace (as a young woman professional, I thank you!).
It made me wonder: If there weren’t any World Wars, would women have been given the opportunity to crack that barrier? How long would it have taken?
Maybe we would have been in the same position as in the countries we now think are ‘backwards’ and not as progressive.
Note: I absolutely acknowledge that tradition and religion plays a big part, so there’s no question that it’s not a matter of trying to preach, be bossy and educate the so-called uneducated to get them to change to what we think is the right way.
Those countries are full of extremely educated people who have a different mentality and outlook on the world.
It’s more that if the culture dictates certain rules and you want to stay in that culture with the rest of your family and friends, you have to follow those rules.
I understand that completely, having known many girls who have chosen that route, even if I would have never chosen that kind of life for myself.
Back to us in North America (and even parts of Europe).
WOMEN EARN LESS, PERIOD.
There is still a lingering, prevailing attitude that women are not as good as men in positions that require technical knowledge/skill and power:
- Any executive position
- Professional chefs
- Engineering
- Technology
- Mathematics
- Medicine
- Law
I am not saying that if you’re in Advertising or Human Resource management that you’re not useful or that you don’t have skills.
I am saying that as a society, we don’t seem to value those kinds of creative professions as highly as the ones that require technical know-how, and it shows in the salaries.
If as a society, we thought that young girls and women could be fantastic assets in those areas, why are women gravitating towards areas that don’t seem technically-inclined?
They’re being pushed towards those professions, unconsciously encouraged to take appropriate jobs and perhaps told from a young age that ‘girls are bad at math and science, so giggle a lot and ask for help from boys‘.
Check out this survey by Payscale – Do men really earn more than women:
Click on the image to enlarge
Notice something?
As a society, we believe that the money comes with the skill and difficulty of the job.
I am not going to get into a discussion of whether or not school teachers or nurses don’t help society (I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT), but this is just an example of why women earn less.
We gravitate towards jobs that don’t pay as much.
We aren’t encouraged to think and stand up for ourselves.
We aren’t taught that there is no ‘girls or boys’ in terms of abilities, there are just people.
We are unconsciously putting women down all the time (even as fellow women!) because of jealousy, pettiness and whatever else comes with women hating other women.
We (sometimes) assume a man is better in a job than a woman (sad, but true).
These are all factors in women earning less in the workplace. The good news is that we’re improving, but it has to change with the way we treat and talk to young girls and women.















